You maybe reading the title and thinking, “Well, I have no children, I am married though, so I guess this post isn’t for me.” Stop right there, no need to click away from this page, pull up a seat, sit, and read on. Even if you do have kids and/or are married, this post can still be for you, maybe someone you know can get something from this post.
I’ve been single for 10 years, been on some dates since then, still going solo. Does that mean there’s something wrong with me? No, it’s by my choice. There are times though, that I wish I could go back and change that “single” status to a “in a relationship” status with someone that I was going on dates with. You can’t go back in time though, you can only learn from it.
This post isn’t about wishing or regretting though, this post is about how society can make us “singles” OR “Childless” feel like the black sheep of this big ole world.
Good thing I’ve wore my still toed boots, because I maybe stepping on some toes with this post.
Let’s begin with my 3 BIGGEST pet peeves living the single and childless life. Maybe you can relate too, if you’re in the same boat.
One of my biggest pet peeves is when people, that have kids, compare their “time” to us singles and childless, “Well, you don’t have kids, you don’t understand. I have x, y, z to do, you have plenty of time.” And then they give the whole, “If I can handle being super busy, than so can you!”
First off, STOP! Just because we don’t have kids or are not married, doesn’t mean were not busy either! We have our own busy lives, our business though, can be different from your business. That’s awesome though, that you can handle being super busy, just because you can though, doesn’t mean the other person can. There is such a thing as balance, and while your life may work for you, doesn’t mean it’ll work for someone else.
When I get overwhelmed, my anxiety kicks in, BAD. I give people props that can go sleep less nights, keep going and pushing even though they’re about to pass out from exhaustion, and down caffeine after caffeine liquids. My body, needs rest and I try to give it the rest it needs, when possible.
2. a “Know-it-all” attitude
Just because you’re married, a few years younger or older than someone, and have a kid or kids doesn’t mean you know EVERYTHING. And, I HATE it, when people talk to you or treat you like your stupid. My favorite, “Well, you wouldn’t know”, Uh, no, I wouldn’t know, I don’t have kids or are married, thank you for pointing that out though!
Just, STOP! Some people know more than other people, depending on the topic and experience they’ve had of course. Tips and advice are great, when they’re welcomed and you’re not being talked to or looked at like you don’t know anything.
3. Fitting Out
I don’t think I’d call this a pet peeve, more like a challenge that’s faced almost daily. You get on social media or hear about it outside of social media, everyone getting pregnant or married and you’re starting to feel like a skeleton sitting on a chair waiting, waiting, and waiting. And, you may feel behind in life, out of the loop, uncool, and thinking there’s something wrong with you.
Well, I can tell you first hand, coming from someone that struggles herself, KEEP. FITTING. OUT. And, trust the process. Enjoy every moment, shake off the “know-it-all” people, the people that compare you to them and their “busy” lives, and the ones that think you’re so uncool.
Life, can really suck. What could really suck though, is getting pulled in to the whole pregnancy and marriage thing just to become part of the world.
You, just keep doing you.